January 10 l 2014
It is…da da da da!…January 10th! How am I spending my Friday night? Well, funny you should ask…I am currently sitting on my bed, eating Menchie’s frozen yogurt, aggressively looking through the instagram of/getting irrationally pissed off at the show/museum person that I was talking about in recent posts. And i’m doing all of this while being agonizingly tortured by the annoying sounds, of which my brother calls music, coming from his room (the only thing separating us is what seems to be a paper-thin wall. Any who, so the person, whom I described earlier on, wants to “meet up” next weekend. Let me tell you, I am scared out of my wits to meet them. I feel as if i’m too overweight at the moment and that I can’t match up with the person who they thought I was. To give you a rough idea of the difference between the person who they thought I was and myself: let’s say that they are Elvis Presley (before the weight gain), I’m Samuel L. Jackson +30 pounds. Okay, let’s say that they are Anne Hathaway, I’m Jennifer Hudson (before the weight loss). Maybe that didn’t help, but the point is I am no where near as attractive, experienced, or musically savvy as the person in the pictures. I just know that they probably aren’t expecting what they’re going to get, and unfortunately not in a good way.
January 9 l 2014
It’s a new year, another day, and a wasted week. I’m starting my new vegan lifestyle today. That, and no more weed or alcohol (not that drinking was ever a problem for me in the first place). Today is the ninth and 9 is my absolute favorite number so it’s a good thing for me. Anyway, the other night I was cornered, literally, at Souplantation by my dad and grandpa into talking about college. Let’s just say I didn’t hear anything new and the mac ‘n cheese would have tasted a whole lot better if the nagging wasn’t included. AND the person with the great music taste/personality/face/sense of humor decided to pack their things and get ready to walk out the door. It seems like i’m the one who has to reach for their shoulder and beg them to stay. It’s funny, before they knew who I truly was, they used to send me rows of heart-eyed faces and told me that I was “perfect”. The conversations lasted for hours and one never ceased to intrigue the other. After each message I’d sent, a new one filled with lovely little letter arrangements was waiting to arrive on my side of the table. Now, all I get is “ahhah wow”, “yeah”, and “sorry, I was at my friend’s show” every two or three days, sprinkled with half-assed smiley faces if I’ve been good. I’m just laying here, wondering when I went from this adorable person who deserves to be taken out on a date to the museum followed by a private show and shower of kisses to a worthless rebound. I’ve been reduced to none more than a “cute butt” and #1537. How is it that I turned into this creature of disgust, in your eyes, when the only thing that changed was shape and pigment.
December 28 l 2013
Oh goddess, i’m so nervous. I’m anxious and inpatient and scared. I met someone who shares the same exact interests as myself. They are out-of- this-world attractive as well so it really doesn’t make my situation any better. So a few days ago, I met this particular person through a dating website, unintentionally, and everything was great. The conversation was smooth and actually very intriguing. They told me that they found me to be utterly attractive and kind-hearted. I thought the same about them. This person is perfect in every single way, right down to their little colloquialisms. They asked me if I wanted to go to the Natural History Museum sometime soon (keep in mind this is one of my most favorite places to go to around the general area of which I live) and to a show being held in a pool, about an hour away from here. I said that I would love to go and promised that I would try to make it. Here was my dilemma though - the pictures that I used for this dating site profile were not my own. I was in the process of an at-home psychology experiment. I, again, wanted to observe the difference in feedback between two profiles using people of the opposite race. I didn’t think that results from only one source was reliable enough. I used my own pictures for one and another individual’s pictures for the other. Well, this one person decided to message me and like I said, the conversation and everything was great. Today, I built up the courage to finally tell them that I wasn’t the person in the pictures that they saw. They responded saying that they were surprised and that they still thought that I was interesting. They told me that they were curious as to what my own face looked like and asked if it was a psychology experiment. It took me a couple of hours to respond back, but I sent a picture of myself along with, “Yes it was.” I haven’t received anything back from them yet, and I’m still patiently waiting. I’ve never been so nervous in my entire life. This is the first person that I have ever met who likes me for myself. They are so silly and playful, but at the same time, very charming and musically savvy. I’m so so scared that they won’t ever want to talk to me again. I messed up, but I am hopeful that everything works out between us.
December 20 I 2013
Strange, these past couple of months I thought my life was just floating down the drain. I had gone through complete misery. I absolutely hated myself and what I had become. I failed all of my classes and I only had four. I gained weight and I am even more in debt than I was at the beginning of the semester. I’ve applied, numerous times, for jobs and have yet to receive a call back. All of my friends cut contact with me after high school. The only person that I feel I had ever truly loved is now dating someone who looks terrifyingly similar to them and has become a “high-fashion” model. The last time I had ever seen them, they didn’t even give me a second glance. I had become sick and weary of finding my significant other. My skin broke out like madness and my cuticles are cut all around. My lack of going through daily hygienic rituals is repulsive. It didn’t help, at all, how I was frequently comparing my life to a certain successful individual either. My grandpa told me that he thinks I lack a feeling of self-worth and that I hadn’t developed a stable personality as of yet. Let’s just say that I wasn’t exactly in a right state of mind and I felt the pressure coming from all walls closing in on me. I always thought it was the most cliche form of piecing someone back together to say, “Once you’ve hit the bottom, there’s no where to go but back up”. I never really understood why so many people constantly used this, in particular, to get by. It was an expression which was far beyond being overvalued. Yesterday, I took a little time out from the day and thought about it. I stared at the curtains and re-evaluated my situation. Let me tell you, I have never felt more energetic and ready to fix everything straight. I know that it isn’t even the next year yet, but I feel so alive and enthused. I mean, what the heck! I don’t even have to wait until 2014 to feel happy again. My new life starts now. I know that it will take me quite a while to get to where I want to be in life, but it’s going to happen. I will be the best version of myself even if it takes a couple years. I just want to take this time to say thank you for joining me on this tidal wave of my life. I know that I had crashed and wept on the shore. Now there’s no place to go but back to the big ocean.
December 11 I 2013
So i’m a little buzzed right now, but the show must go on. Okay, so today I decided to chat it up a bit with an old friend. We argue, playfully, back and forth as usual. So anyway, they said that we should drink next time we “hang out” so I agreed and the conversation went on. It got pretty boring so I decided not to respond to their last message. The last thing they said was, “No problemo”. Sounds like a conversation end-er to me. What’s been bothering me, recently though, is that this person has been on my mind for the past couple of days. It’s kind of gotten to the point where I had masturbated in the shower to the thought of them this morning. I’m pretty sure they’re in a relationship at the moment and I feel bad about it, but I can’t help it. I should just back off, right? I don’t know. This particular person was very interested in me a year or two ago, but I wasn’t sure about it. I knew that they had these feelings about my old best friend, which is why I never gave them a chance. Hold on, I have to pee………wow I just peed in a glass in an attempt to avoid going to my parents’ room. I literally just filled up a glass and a half. Alright, well I don’t know man. I feel like if I consume any kind of alcohol with this person, then the truth will come out. I don’t want the truth to come out. I want the truth to stay in. If I tell this person how I felt about them and that whole situation, it could potentially fuck up their entire current relationship. I don’t know. I just don’t know. All I do know is that they want to get drunk next Saturday, and there isn’t really any other way around it.
December 9 I 2013
I’ve decided I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore. I don’t care for it. I really don’t mind not finding a significant other. I have given up on that, not because i’m lazy or anything, but because I just don’t believe anyone is good enough for me. If they are good enough, then they don’t want me anyway. I’m constantly horny though. Not a day goes by that I don’t have these sexual cravings. I don’t want to use another person solely for sex though. I have always thought that sex should be something between two people in love…or at least when you ARE in love, it will enhance it. If I wouldn’t want to deal with the person that I am going to have sex with, then why would I go ahead and sleep with them in the first place? That is what masturbating is for. The only thing is, well for my situation, is that I have to share a room. Sharing a room with someone is one of the most horrible things a sexually frustrated person can go through. I kind of hate it, honestly. It would be nice to have a room all to myself and to be able to lock the door whenever I please. I could indulge in touching myself and just having privacy in general. Not to mention I wouldn’t have to stay extremely quiet when I do. I’m going to be 100% truthful with these journal entries. I do masturbate with the other person still in the room. I haven’t done it recently though. I just get sick and tired of having to constantly strap myself down to the bed when I get that itch. This person never leaves the room too and I feel like sometimes they try to watch me when I masturbate. It’s kind of unsettling, isn’t it? That’s what I thought at first, I just stopped caring altogether. If they want to stare at me at night and pretend they are sleeping, then go right on ahead! I’m not going to hold myself back. But nowadays I just wait until they leave or just not do anything at all. I try my best not to think about sex. It always ends with me feeling terribly unsatisfied and sometimes unwanted. Oh well.
December 6 I 2013
I’ve been reading many inspirational quotes lately, especially following the death of Nelson Mandela. I feel like I can still change my life for the better and make things finally work. I applied for a job at a local Office Depot, literally walking distance, and today i’m going to speak with an academic adviser to see what I can do to stay at the university. If I have to leave the school for whatever reason, then i’m going to attend a community college about 25 minutes away from my house. There is a jc closer to my house, but I’d rather not go there just because they aren’t exactly the best out there and the person who bullied me in high school goes there. I would just prefer not to see their face ever again. Anyway, this post is going to be pretty long. I have to make up for these past couple of days that I haven’t been on. Well, aside from everything looking up and what not, I’m having trouble with my ex. I don’t know if I can even say that I was in a relationship with them, but here is how it all went down. So, I set up two accounts on this dating website as sort of an at-home sociology experiment. The reason why I decided to do this was because I wanted to study the amount and quality of feedback between two people of different ethnicities. For one account, I used my actual pictures and for the other I used someone else’s. There were no differences between the two profiles other than the pictures, the usernames (which were literally one letter off), and the name that I used for the other account. Everything was perfectly symmetrical - the description, height, body type, religious views…everything. I even responded to messages on the other account exactly as I would with the one using my own pictures. Alright, so I met this person through the second profile and we automatically clicked. I never wanted to find someone to actually become romantically involved with, as this was purely for experimental purposes, but this person seemed to understand me a great deal. As our relationship progressed, I felt exceedingly uncomfortable with the fact that I had been lying through my fingertips to this person that I felt so strongly in love with. I tried several times to cut it off and move on with my life, but there was always something that brought me back to this particular person. I feel as if there might have been some form of manipulation going on, but I really don’t know. Every time I would stop talking to them, they would cry and write me paragraphs and paragraphs of emails telling me that they don’t understand why I ended our relationship so abruptly. I would get voice mails every single day of them weeping over the phone and trying to come up with some kind of explanation as to why I didn’t want to be with them. It hurt, every time I would hear it. I knew that they had been in a rough relationship a few months prior to the one we shared. Over the course of our 5 months together, I could sense that this person was becoming somewhat obsessed with me (or the person who they thought I was). They found my Snapchat account through their contacts list and added me. I knew that this whole scheme of mine was going too far. One day I sent them a simple snap - the blinds of the sliding door next to my bed. They asked if it was me (using the name of the second profile) and I said yes. I only wanted to explain to them what had been going down for the past few months. They seemed so elated to hear from me, as I had been ignoring their calls and messages for a couple weeks before, and it tore me up so much. It wasn’t the right thing to do, but I carried on with pretending to be this person. I made them think that everything was peachy and that the hole in our relationship was finally patched up. I carried it on like this for another week and a half until I felt absolutely sick with myself. I stopped talking to them yet again, but this time for about three weeks. I sent them a letter through the mail, basically making it sound as though the person they knew was dead and gone. As if that person disappeared off of the face of the earth. They didn’t understand. Instead of taking it and leaving it at that, they messaged me numerous times. They called me self-righteous and said things like, “I guess I deserved it, right? You are too good.” Being as disgusted with myself as I was, I decided to try to come clean to them. I sent a snap as myself. When they asked if I was the second profile, I said no and that I didn’t know anyone who had that name. We responded to each other a few times through pictures, but they didn’t seem interested in me at all. I kept feeling as if they were bored with me and that they wanted the conversation to end as soon as possible. A couple days ago, I added a few pictures to “My Story”. I purposefully made them out in the fashion that I would when I was pretending to be the second profile, in a desperate attempt to get a grasp of their attention. They noticed immediately and sent me a snap saying that they were confused. I was at loss for words. I wasn’t expecting them to respond so quickly. Instead of explaining everything to them. I completely shut them off again. I was too scared to respond or say anything. I knew I would have to tell them one day, but my explanation just doesn’t seem valid. They wouldn’t believe me if I told them the truth and even if they did, they would think that the whole relationship was a lie. I loved everything about them. Their taste in music, their honesty, their integrity, their personality, their smile, the way that they laughed, how I could tell them all of my problems, how they loved it when I called them the stupid little pet names I came up with - “angel” “honeydew” “lovely” “sweet pea” “darling”, the little sigh that they gave after we shared our fantasies over the phone. I loved how I could always tell when they were smiling when we spoke. We had so much in common - our favorite color, sense of humor, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite theme parks, fear of heights, views on situations/experiences, our insecurities, goals/ambitions, etc….they even spoke the language that I had always found to be most attractive (my views on this have changed now). They were one of the most beautiful and genuine creatures I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. It’s all falling down now. I don’t know what to tell them. I don’t know how to go about explaining to them that although the pictures weren’t me, I still do truly love them. I should have told them from the beginning, right? I couldn’t. It was only an experiment.
December 3 I 2013
I’m tired of living this particular life. Most times I wish I could just pass on and be re-born into a different person. How lovely it would be if it were so. Lately I’ve been extremely unsuccessful at almost everything. I feel so useless and weak. A few months ago, I started college thinking it was going to be the most eye-opening and awakening experience of my life. I thought I was going to have so much fun and make at least 10 or 20 friends within the first semester. I thought I would find someone who looked at me with such love in their eyes and consider me their muse. I thought I was going to be studying for hours and hours and gain so much knowledge about the world. I thought my room mates and I were going to be life long friends and go out to spend time with each other outside of school. I thought my style and the way that I dressed would change instantly. I thought I was going to lose so much weight and tone at the gym. I thought I was going to be invited to parties every weekend. I thought my teachers would love me, because this would be a new me. I would be someone who had goals set in their mind and actually achieve them. But none of that happened. In fact, what seemed to be the absolute opposite of all of this is what I experienced. I didn’t make 10-20 friends. I didn’t even make 2. Out of the entire semester, I only met one person who I could actually consider a friend and we don’t even talk that much. Nobody looks at me and attempts to pursue me. Instead they all look forward as if I’m not even in their peripheral vision. This doesn’t bother me as much though. People tend to have hectic lives while in college and they never have time to bat a single eyelash at another person. I moved back home, because my room mates were talking behind my back since the first day I arrived. Instead of studying, I’ve been smoking marijuana and focusing on other people’s lives. Instead of being at the height of fashion, i’m exactly where I was last year. If anything, people seem to judge the way that I dress more in college than in high school. I lost about 10 pounds the first month of school, but now I am slowly gaining it back. I need to stop eating so heavily. I binge so much when I should be eating fruits and vegetables. I have failed every single class and it really is affecting me. I have never done so poorly in school in my whole life. To top it all off, I only get financial aid if I pass my classes. It’s so far into the semester at this point, that there is no chance of redeeming myself. Everyone that I have turned to - my siblings, my grandpa, my mom, my asshole of a dad - have told me that I just wasted not only all this money, but everybody’s time and energy. I feel like shit. I really do. I know how much I’ve wasted and I want to fix it so badly. I want to fix me. I’ve never felt so down and low about myself before. I’m just sick of being me. I want to become someone successful, intelligent, social, charming, educated, quick-witted, thin, musically savvy, independent, adventurous, energetic, but most of all, I want to be healthy.
What you have stumbled across here is a journal. Somewhat of a virtual diary, I suppose. In this journal, you will find my inner thoughts, my precious secrets, and my unshed tears.